Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Laws of Attraction

There may be one or two of you out there who remember my good friend Lucia and her dating stories.  This one in particular is sure to go down in the annals of time as one of the Worst Dates Ever.  Well, I am happy to tell you that there is a nice, new man in her life.  He is a kind, thoughtful, successful, generous, and compassionate gentleman.  Cupid has hit his target, and he's completely gaga over her.  And Lucia?  Well, she is just not so sure....

I'd like to strangle her, but I actually understand.  If there's no spark, then there's no spark.  Why do women like the bad boys so much? The drama?  The excitement? Lord knows I have had my fair share as well.

When I was in college, my mother had a wealthy suitor with similar qualities as Lucia's new man.  And my mother had no interest.  At all.  I remember one day talking to my brother about it, and I said,  "You know, T, you'd think for a hundred million dollars she could muster up some kind of feelings for the guy.  I mean, really, what is wrong with her?"  My brother responded without skipping a beat, "For a hundred million dollars, I could call him Daddy."

I still have hopes for Lucia and her new friend.  She deserves a nice man in her life.  The bad boys have taken up waaaay too much space and time.  Any bad boy experiences out there?

42 comments:

Chesapeake Bay Woman said...

Oh yeah. My Bad Boy Story could be an HBO movie. Bad, bad, bad boy. Terrible, horrible, no good, very bad.

If you watch Seinfeld, the episode where George turns Bad Boy proves that even a short, bald man with glasses can attract someone if he is only bad enough (or in this case pretends to be).

I hope your friend does find someone who is a little bit bad but mostly good, secure, stable, intelligent, witty, handsome, a good conversationalist, and attentive to her every need.

Stop laughing, you never know. He just may exist.

Hilary said...

Yikes.. I just read about the worst date ever. Can't top that! Too funny.

Holy Crappers said...

My daugther is dating a really really nice guy now. He's doomed.

#1

kim-d said...

OMG, I don't think you have nearly enough time to listen to all my bad boy stories...EEEK! But yet oh so good at the same time. BWAHAHAHA! I finally figured out the reason for the bad boys was because I wasn't ready to be with anyone forever. When I was ready, I ended up marrying the nicest, sweetest best man in the world, and I loved my life and being married to him every minute of every day. Even though he passed away over seven years ago, I still love him with all my heart. Sometimes it just takes more time to get to the right one.

In the meantime, ya just go with whoever is so bad yet so good. :)

Laura ~Peach~ said...

yeah and I aint sharing LOL

Flea said...

Why do we like the bad boys so much?

Laura ~Peach~ said...

why thank you! I laughed my self silly when I got that in an email the other day!

Laura ~Peach~ said...

why thank you! I laughed my self silly when I got that in an email the other day!

Kacey said...

I dated a really perfect for me guy in college for a bit. Business degree. Going place. Polite. He really cared about me. But I just could NOT talk myself into the spark, not matter what.

Employee No. 3699 said...

Dated a bad boy...who was 5 years younger than me...and played drums in a band. That's all you're going to get out of me.

Starwoodgal said...

I have a friend going through some tough man times and lots of baggage from the bad boy who has strung her along (on and off) for over 10 years. I'm hoping she gives him the boot once and for all. Life is too short.

asthmagirl said...

Sorry, I've done my time. I'd rather have a nice guy any day.

Tag!

TSannie said...

Maybe you should call Lucia's friend and tell him to throw in a little bad boy drama...sometimes that spark needs a little lighter fluid to get it going!

Caution Flag said...

You are right. Nice guys can be boring. Maybe my boys needs to acquire some attitude ?

Keetha said...

Not exactly bad boys but certainly ill-advised choices. They are legion. I am really, really glad I met The Fiance when I did; if I had been younger, I'm afraid I may not have appreciated the wonderfulness that is him.

Re: The worst dates ever: he told her about his HAIR TRANSPLANT?? Please, please, PLEASE tell me you or Lucia is exagerating and that truly did not happen. Please. That is about the worst thing I've ever heard. Bless her heart.

Mental P Mama said...

Keetha--I promise you, it is all true. And I think I even toned it down a bit!

Big Hair Envy said...

I married my bad boy.........22 years ago! I guess he wasn't so bad after all, was he??

Keeper Of All Things said...

Love the last Cupid

Treasia said...

My bad boys could make a lifetime movie and it be one of those horrifying ones with a happy ending.

Anonymous said...

Nine years older, ex-Marine, gun-totin'Redneck, ex-football player - so very very unlike me!
(But a charmer...)

Married him, divorced him, then find out he has since transgendered!

I WIN!!!

Mental P Mama said...

Um, Anonymous: you are indeed correct. YOU WIN. Gah!

Daryl said...

I honestly dont think I met any real bad boys ... there was the Italian guy who my mother thought was bad .. but only because he wasnt Jewish ... Nope, I just reviewed all my memory banks and I cannot come up with one really bad boy .. some not so wonderful relationships that should have ended a lot sooner than they did but no real bad boys ...

How sad is that?

:-Daryl

Alias Liz Jones said...

Dear Mental P Mama, what is it about bad boys? It's a mystery. At my age, if my husband ever left me and I remarried, I wouldn't have the patience for a bad boy. Well, at my age, it would be a bad middle aged man, and that just wouldn't seem right. Something would have to give.

Bear Naked said...

Love that 2nd cupid picture.

No bad boy story from me.
But when I was engaged a long time ago to a Mommy's boy I found out she had hired a private detective to find out if *I* was a bad girl.
Called that engagement off real quick.

Bear((( )))

Lisa J said...

My daughter dated a Bad Boy for I don't remember how long....oh about $15,000 in credit card debt long. If I see him again I will be tempted to kill him, hide the body, and demand a lawyer if I get caught. He better run and HIDE. And yes, this is coming from a retired police officer. It doesn't change my feelings towards the scum sucking maggot. Glad he is out of her life! Will be even more glad when she gets the loan paid off.

Susiewearsthepants said...

I made the collosal mistake of marrying the bad boy. That was really bad. It only last a few months and then he took off and left me with a daughter to raise. His bad boy qualities were so attractive at first, then later not so much. I read an article that says that women are attracted to bad boys instinctually. We associate masculinity with bad boys. We are attracted to masculinity because of our carnal desire to reproduce with the manliest of men. It makes sense. I've never met a wimpy bad boy. Also sometimes I think that we think "nice" men are just not as much fun.

noble pig said...

Lucia-

Stay away from the bad boys, they suck. You want, security, stability, good, NOT BAD!

Give this guy a different look through another view-finder...maybe even a different glass of wine?

WORKING MOM said...

Oh dear, the poor dear. Just as long as she takes one thing from each man. A piece of advice or a nice rock.

Beckynsc said...

Yea, he's my ex-husband.

Tonjia said...

I was never attracted to the bad boys, I dated athletes. For the most part I hung around with athletes so thats who I dated. Then I met my ex. I guess he was some kind of redneck bad boy, (the thought of it makes me want to throw up in my mouth).

And I wasted 21 horrible years on him.

Now I am married to an angel. lots of brains, lots of humor and the patience of a saint..

I hope Lucia realizes that the bad boys are just a fad, at least i hope they are!

Old Lady Lincoln said...

Well let's face it,no matter what a man looks like, he can be too short, too fat, too bald, too tall, too skinny, way to hairy, but they all still think they are God's gift to woman. Now, on the other hand they all want someone that looks like a Barbie doll with an IQ to match. Right, like someone that looks like Barbie wants a loser, she's not as dumb as some people think, but then again perhaps she is. LOL

That sounded like a date from hell to me. I wish her luck and yes she shouldn't say no to the nice guy until she actually meets the guy and gets to know him a little.

I had an aunt that went from one extreme to the other, her first husband supposedly had a little money, he was about 25 years older than her, and left her in debt, even though he also left her some properties she had to sell off to pay his debts when he died. Her second husband was 17 years younger than her, and needless to say he outlived her. So who's to say about the age differences, I guess what ever floats your boat and is good for you. I wish your friend the best of luck.

Chesapeake Bay Woman said...

On an unrelated note, no popcorn shrimp was eaten today. Still have the craving and sorry to mention the words yet again. I promise tomorrow I won't.

Egghead said...

I guess the worst bad boy I had a date with was one who was completely drunk by the time we went to a dance from having dinner with friends. He sat there at a table weaving back and forth in his chair and every once in a while little spews of vomit slid out of his mouth and down his shirt. I remember watching this from across the table and wondering who the hell this was. No more dates for that dude.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

You wouldnt wear the monkey dress? How come?

Hallie :)

Country Girl said...

I married the town bad boy.

* sigh *

MamaGeek said...

I had a friend who dated bad boy after bad boy after bad boy. She was a bad boy magnet. Then she married 3.

Love is grand.

Divorce is a HUNDRED grand.

Jan said...

Good Gawd...the more I read about bad boys and bad dates the better I like my cat.

Jules said...

If that's cupid...I'm outta here!

Leah said...

My four sisters and I have brought home more than our share of bad boys ... you know my mothers trick for dealing with us (and them)?

"He seems very nice" or "He seems like a nice boy"

When you are 17 years old, the only (okay, well main reason - aside from looking cool in front of your friends, self consciousness, you know how it goes) reason you bring home a boy like that is to piss off your mother. She had that aalll figured out. Needless to say, those boys never lasted long!

www.fiveblondes.com

Krysta said...

my sister is attracted to bad boys... nice guy with a steady job, treats her and her daughter like gold, is an all around good guy equals the kiss of death. the 35 year old bouncer (current boyfriend) who lives at home with his parents, doesn't own a car, a treats her like crap equals she's in love.

holly said...

eh. i married a really nice guy. somewhere, he buggered off and left me with this dude who leaves used qtips by the computer. i . mean . ew!

Debbie said...

Yes, my first love was a bad boy. He still is. I visited him exactly one month after my separation. Why you ask? To see if he'd changed, and of course he hasn't. He is still an asshole.