tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post4652746749584330166..comments2023-10-22T08:55:26.583-05:00Comments on Mental P Mama: Bittersweet Mama's Summer MilestonesMental P Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-61520308905695900342008-07-24T10:08:00.000-05:002008-07-24T10:08:00.000-05:00Forgive the metaphor, but at least you rip the ban...Forgive the metaphor, but at least you rip the bandage off all at once. I've got one leaving and one more to go, and I can literally feel my heart rended in two.<BR/><BR/>Please let me know how things are going with this - I'm sure you and I will have many things to share.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and because "we" "chose" our out-of-town school so late in the game, I completely missed the Parent Orientation that told me what to do with all the miles and miles of umbilical cord I have to deal with...Shelley Jaffehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05722741021304883646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-6887900613109539932008-07-24T08:53:00.000-05:002008-07-24T08:53:00.000-05:00Awww. My youngest is eleven and I'm already lookin...Awww. My youngest is eleven and I'm already looking forward to it. Is that bad?Fleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03412755038083750088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-36639404112048722192008-07-23T20:18:00.000-05:002008-07-23T20:18:00.000-05:00Anytime you want to get away from all that Transit...Anytime you want to get away from all that Transitioning, please feel free to not only set up a tent in the yard here but consider the guest room or the pop-up camper, although I take it camping is not your thing....<BR/><BR/>Merlot freely runs here, but we can definitely access some chardonnay. <BR/><BR/>This will help you ease into the next phase of your life which is this:<BR/><BR/>RELAXATION. PEACE. QUIET. TIME TO REFLECT. TH ABILITY TO SAY I'M GONNA HAVE CHEETOS FOR SUPPER IF I WANT. AND NOTHING ELSE. KNOWLEDGE THAT YOU'VE DONE THE BEST YOU CAN DO WITH THE MOST PRECIOUS BEINGS ON THE PLANET.<BR/><BR/>AND WINE. <BR/><BR/>Mine are a long ways from flying the coop, but these are the thoughts I have on a daily basis.....Chesapeake Bay Womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07187804072769932131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-66839674416123967612008-07-23T19:52:00.000-05:002008-07-23T19:52:00.000-05:00I never looked on it as an empty nest. Life is all...I never looked on it as an empty nest. Life is all about change and you roll with it, or it rolls over you. I actually love having them visit! However, one moved back in. Let's not talk about that.Country Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14432335393660130255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-20901680083297967162008-07-23T17:35:00.000-05:002008-07-23T17:35:00.000-05:00wow. as if in the blink of an eye...i'm going to s...wow. as if in the blink of an eye...<BR/><BR/>i'm going to stop blinking for a bit. <BR/><BR/>but an empty nest must SURELY mean more golfing, yes? oh yes i want that. <BR/><BR/>or maybe i'll just teach them to golf. yeah, that.hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839794772310980473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-8362972822135974162008-07-23T16:49:00.000-05:002008-07-23T16:49:00.000-05:00Oh yes, there are some really good signs coming yo...Oh yes, there are some really good signs coming your way. You don't have to fix dinner if you don't want to and just eat a bowl of cereal. You don't have to do the dishes either, they won't be there to see the example!!!! You can run around in your underwear or even naked...who cares. And you and your husband???well you can figure that one out. It IS the next stage of life. You get to be a part of their lives still, you will be needed as much then as you are now, just in a different way. There will be so many things to do with and for them. It is FUN to be in that place. Empty nest?? Noooo, just more space in your nest, before long there will be more coming home...the nest just expands. You will LOVE IT!!!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12881554728710759245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-3761313521284293022008-07-23T16:40:00.000-05:002008-07-23T16:40:00.000-05:00I found myself sappy and crying at every event at ...I found myself sappy and crying at every event at the end of my youngest daughter's eighth grade year. I had already sent two daughter's off to college and even though I hated her middle school I was boo-hoo-ing at everything. <BR/>Love your blog and (unfortunately) find myself able to relate quite well to the concept of mental pause. <BR/>ThanksAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-20956738240643528992008-07-23T16:29:00.000-05:002008-07-23T16:29:00.000-05:00My empty nester moment was when I could finally pu...My empty nester moment was when I could finally purchase the expensive shampoo and conditioner and know that the bottles wouldn't be empty in three days.<BR/>Sheer bliss.<BR/><BR/>Bear((( )))Bear Nakedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10911207797995309155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-91870333613676685702008-07-23T15:09:00.000-05:002008-07-23T15:09:00.000-05:00Hi there. Found you through Pioneer Woman. I am ...Hi there. Found you through Pioneer Woman. I am finally an empty nester. My oldest who is 28, finally moved out...again. This time I think (hope) it's for good.<BR/><BR/>We have noticed lower utility bills and are definitely spending less on groceries. The only laundry in the house is our own as are any messes.<BR/><BR/>Nice blog. I'll be stopping by again.<BR/><BR/>Toodles~Expat No. 3699https://www.blogger.com/profile/13023652840187420920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-82855277132265524302008-07-23T14:29:00.000-05:002008-07-23T14:29:00.000-05:00Of course you'll be okay. I share some of those sa...Of course you'll be okay. I share some of those same feelings with you....I suspect K2 will be gone in a year or so and that will be sad. Sometimes I think they keep us young, other times I think that focusing so much on them keeps us from thinking about the healthy "me" part of us. <BR/>Great post! Here's to quiet times ahead!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-31066528155890287052008-07-23T13:54:00.000-05:002008-07-23T13:54:00.000-05:00I never even imagined that my life would be as it ...I never even imagined that my life would be as it is today. I always thought that they would grow up, leave home and I/we would be able to have more time to ourselves, maybe travel or do some other things we wanted to. But life doesn't work the way you imagine and we have had kids in and out between college/work/layoffs and now grandchildren that we spend as much time as possible with because they don't have a mommy any longer. But I would not change a thing and if there is one huge thing I have learned it is to not sweat the small stuff that does not work our as you imagined. Just enjoy each moment...life is truly short.Eggheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12929947510816062200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-23148828256158581282008-07-23T12:32:00.000-05:002008-07-23T12:32:00.000-05:00More milk in the refrigerator. That was our first ...More milk in the refrigerator. That was our first sign.<BR/>When the oldest moved out, I took over his room the next day. I had to so that I wouldn't curl up in a ball in his bed. There are melancholy times, but mostly what you described-- starting to get a little of you back.<BR/>Happy wednesday to you!imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-86556916298523866592008-07-23T12:19:00.000-05:002008-07-23T12:19:00.000-05:00i'm thinking the food, water and electricity bills...i'm thinking the food, water and electricity bills will be lower is a big sign that the kids are out of the house... fewer dishes and not having to pick up all their crap is another.krystahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12531928118463332366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-91718503281892109172008-07-23T11:38:00.000-05:002008-07-23T11:38:00.000-05:00I LOVE THE STREET SIGN! I can't live on that stre...I LOVE THE STREET SIGN! I can't live on that street for a while yet although my oldest is 33 this year...I still have two sons at home...you know that saying "You have five children, three are living and the other two...WELL!" You get the picture...I am looking forward to my kids being OUT! I love them to pieces but...I am SO READY!!!Sassyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13350876324406816793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-19954758125001170012008-07-23T10:58:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:58:00.000-05:00I've ushered off two kids to college (2 more are s...I've ushered off two kids to college (2 more are still at home) and I'm here to say that it is do-able. But it is a weird feeling driving away and leaving behind the object of so much attention for the previous 18 years. It's the goal when I brought the little guys home from the hospital to raise up them to be responsible and independent, right? The alternative is way worse-40 year old mama's boys still living at home (I always think of Howard Sprague on Andy Griffeth.)<BR/>A word of Warning: under no circumstances should you watch old videos of when your kids were little.Cathy ~ Tadpoles and Teacupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00138532109948783736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-74372415451402789152008-07-23T10:51:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:51:00.000-05:00@tj LOL and amen! I think those streets are very...@tj LOL and amen! I think those streets are very close to my neighborhood!Mental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-48925698959451676572008-07-23T10:49:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:49:00.000-05:00What a great attitude to have. Your cup, it is so ...What a great attitude to have. Your cup, it is so half full.Keethahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10391755322320140235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-24087852178182678542008-07-23T10:44:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:44:00.000-05:00...Yeah, doesn't "Empty Nest Lane" c......Yeah, doesn't "Empty Nest Lane" cross "Spread Your Wings & Fly Drive"? Or is that "It's All About Me Now Expressway"? ;o)<BR/><BR/>...I can't imagine all the feelings you must feel from one day to the next, bittersweet for sure. Life is spectacular isn't it? :o)<BR/><BR/>...Blessings to you... :o)tjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15595340637449976534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-62276246204978779332008-07-23T10:39:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:39:00.000-05:00Look for a sign that reads: "Freedom Drive". I h...Look for a sign that reads: "Freedom Drive". I have been mentally preparing myself for this milestone in my life as well for the last few months. One more year of high school and then off to college for her. Although she probably will continue to live here I know it won't be the same. I am slowly weaning myself into finding ME again. So far I am loving every single minute of finding myself once more.Treasia Stepphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10126382668167560512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-19355693881488588302008-07-23T10:11:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:11:00.000-05:00It's hard to imagine sending them off...I can't ev...It's hard to imagine sending them off...I can't even go there yet.<BR/><BR/>You will hit a new phase here soon and you will DO WELL too. Enjoy...I feel that as children grow and they bring more members into our families (marriage, kids) things only get better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-47398008347322336372008-07-23T10:02:00.000-05:002008-07-23T10:02:00.000-05:00Now that my kids are older and doing their own thi...Now that my kids are older and doing their own thing we HAD started to do things on our own, which was nice. Now that I'm taking care of the Gman, the book and I are back at square 1.<BR/><BR/>#1Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-55330776493302415982008-07-23T08:48:00.000-05:002008-07-23T08:48:00.000-05:00Frankly, I was amazed at how my real self returned...Frankly, I was amazed at how my real self returned after the kids were gone. Suddenly, I could carry on adult conversations again and my vocabulary reappeared after a long absence. Shopping is once again fun rather than being a chore and being alone is often sheer bliss. It is not an easy transformation, but you might as well sit back and enjoy the ride. Just know that there will be many tears before the light can guide you to inner peace, lol.Snooty Primadonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10023417839687501752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-17830891157280279632008-07-23T08:42:00.000-05:002008-07-23T08:42:00.000-05:00I am affraid. Scared stiff to find myself alone.NS...I am affraid. Scared stiff to find myself alone.<BR/><BR/>NSLO has pushed and sent out her first college application. Albeit for her #1 saftey but at least that is one mailed and received.<BR/><BR/>We have one more massive trip planned for the fall. Then the real paperwork and fretting begins.<BR/><BR/>I invite you to share a bottle of Chardonnay when the kids have sent in their last applications!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-2234501895610816902008-07-23T08:38:00.000-05:002008-07-23T08:38:00.000-05:00It is the best of times....bittersweet, yes, but s...It is the best of times....bittersweet, yes, but surely the best of times.<BR/><BR/>xoxoabbabbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08879476262337290531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4191096654817601753.post-14189743305121322812008-07-23T07:58:00.000-05:002008-07-23T07:58:00.000-05:00I am so glad that the universe seems to be prepari...I am so glad that the universe seems to be preparing you for this wonderful time for your children... It is so wonderful that you have such a great relationship with your kids and aren't "pushing" them out of the nest... Thanks for sharingStacey Olsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14735896924805332261noreply@blogger.com